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<p>No. It’s a complete sentence. You are not responsible for someone’s reaction to your boundary. How are your boundaries serving you?<br/>
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No. It’s a complete sentence. You are not responsible for someone’s reaction to your boundary. How are your boundaries serving you?
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Posted 36 weeks ago
<p>A favorite quote from my favorite author. 💪#wecandohardthings </p>



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<p>#recoverymantra<br/>
#rise #lovewarrior #wecandohardthings #traumarecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery  <br/>
#claremonttherapist #latherapist  (at Claremont, California)<br/>
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A favorite quote from my favorite author. 💪#wecandohardthings

#recoverymantra
#rise #lovewarrior #wecandohardthings #traumarecovery #eatingdisorderrecovery
#claremonttherapist #latherapist (at Claremont, California)
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Posted 36 weeks ago
Some of the most comforting words in the world are ‘me too.’ That moment when you find out that your struggle is also someone else’s struggle, and that others have been down the same road as you.
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Posted 186 weeks ago

Stress and Your Relationship

Stress can make relationships hard: Financial stress, children, work issues, family problems, and so many more I didn’t list . They all play a significant role on your relationship. Many couples struggle with resentment and anger when they don’t find time for each other. When I say time I mean quality time, (not in front of the TV or laying in bed on your phones) face to face enjoying one another. Its important to carve out time each week to reconnect, be vulnerable, and open with one another. This time allows for connection and love to grow deeper. Leave the phones at home, hire a babysitter, and be active together. Here are some fun and free ideas for a reconnecting date: walk on the beach, picnic in the park, play a board game, or go for a hike. What ever you decide to do together make sure you laugh, relax and have fun. 

Posted 191 weeks ago

How to Recognise a Toxic Friend

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Is this a person who always puts you down? A friend is someone who accepts you as you are – and allows you to be different, and to think for yourself, and to make your own decisions – without an explanation. However, if a person is demeaning or always puts you down, criticises your opinions, or the way you dress or look, then that’s someone to avoid as they’re a toxic friend.

2. Do they gossip about you? A friend is someone you can totally trust. You can share your deepest secrets, and say what’s on your mind – and they won’t tell a person or betray your trust. However, if you always have to watch what you say around a friend as they’re likely to gossip or let something slip then it’s likely that this person is a toxic friend.

3. Do they constantly mock and make fun of you? A bit of gentle ribbing shows affection between friends. But if they’re always making fun of you, or highlighting your faults, or attacking you in public, then they’re not a genuine friend.

4. How do you feel after being with your friend? Think about your answers to the following:

- Do you feel defensive when you spend time with them?
- Do you feel hurt or upset after spending time with them?
- Do you feel as if you always have to justify yourself instead of being “natural” around your friend?
- Do you enjoy their company or do you feel ambivalent?
- Do they undermine your confidence and self-esteem?
- Do you feel attacked and used after spending time with them?
- Does the friendship feel unbalanced and require a lot of work?
- Is it more a competition than a genuine friendship?

Note: If you recognize the signs of a toxic friend, then it’s time to move on and find a different friend. Being with this individual will wreak your happiness.

Posted 191 weeks ago

7 Things Every Kid Needs to Hear

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. I love you

2. I’m proud of you

3. I’m sorry

4. I forgive you

5. I’m listening

6. This is your responsibility

7. You’ve got what it takes.

Josh Shipp

Posted 191 weeks ago

7 Simple Ways To Say “No”

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1. “I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.” This lets the person know your plate is full at the moment.
2. “Now’s not a good time as I’m in the middle of something. How about we reconnect at X time?” This lets the person know it’s not a good time. However, you also convey your desire to help by suggesting another time (at your convenience). This way, the person doesn’t feel blown off.
3. “I’d love to do this, but …” This is a gentle way of saying no. It’s encouraging as it lets the person know you like the idea but I can’t take part due to other reasons, such as prior commitments.
4. “Let me think about it first and I’ll get back to you.”
This is more like a “Maybe” than a straight out “No”. If you are interested but you don’t want to say ‘yes’ just yet, use this.
5. “This doesn’t fit with what I’m looking for now - but I’ll keep you in mind.” Sometimes it is just best to turn the person/ offer down. Otherwise, the discussion can drag on and on.
6. “I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try X?” Again, sometimes it is best to say you’re the wrong person to help etc. If possible, refer them to a lead they can follow-up on instead.
7. “No, I can’t.” The simplest and most direct way to say no.
Source: http://zenhabits.net/say-no/ (Abridged)

Sometimes we struggle to say NO. Here are some great ways to follow through!

Posted 193 weeks ago

Boundaries

Think of boundaries as an imaginary bubble of light that surrounds us and protects us. A perfect example of this is the skin on the body. The skin keeps the internal organs, muscles, blood, and other life giving essentials inside the body. Just like the body needs skin we need boundaries. There are two main boundaries: internal and external. External boundaries keep our body and physical person safe and internal boundaries keep our emotions and authentic self safe.  These boundaries are necessary to guide us through life and help us discern right from wrong in our lives and relationships. Many times the inability to say “No” when we really don’t want to do something is often a boundary violation against ourself. I was once told that when we often feel angry or uneasy about something our boundaries are being crossed by someone else or by ourselves.  It’s important to look at these uncomfortable emotions that come up and understand what really does feel right for our lives. In living authentic lives it’s important to examine our feelings of what feels right and peaceful instead of obligated or forced.

Posted 193 weeks ago

Back to School Blues?

When the new school year starts I frequently have a handful of parents concerned that their child is dreading school. I hear stories of tearful nights, screaming car rides, and refusing to let go of their mom or dad to go into class. Parents call with confusion and frustration of why their child hates school all of a sudden. Some cases land children in the nurses office with stomach aches or headaches a few hours after they are dropped off at school. So what’s going on? Most cases result in a child with a more anxious personality type and became more attached to their parent over summer break. Children have difficulty verbalizing their feelings and often leads to a physical manifestation of anxiety. But how do I break this cycle and get my child to like school again? Start talking about how much fun your child is going to have at school the next day and what exciting things they have to look forward to at school. Do not focus on your anger and frustration towards the situation as that will increase your child’s anxiety. As parents, we want what is best for our children and know that education is so important for their future, but acknowledging the situation with anger will likely make the situation worse. Identify if their are any underlying issues occurring that sparked the resistance towards school. Is your child being bullied, Is he or she fearful of their new teacher, was their a loss in the family? Identifying any other issues can help resolve some of the anxiety and fear that occurs when starting a new school year. 

Feel free to contact me for more support!

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Posted 194 weeks ago

Is Divorce Hurting Your Child or Teen?

Divorce is often times necessary in bad marriages and in the long run can be beneficial to the mental health of yourself and your family if it is repaired correctly.  Parents often ask me how to tell if their divorce is hurting their child or their relationship with their child. Here are some signs that your child or teen is hurting and needs some support: Irritability, anger outbursts, behavioral problems, school refusal, sad, tearful, sleeping problems or insomnia, nightmares, increased arguments with siblings, decreased academic performance, confusion, difficulty with peers, social isolation, drug use, feelings of guilt, feelings of betrayal, less talkative, not engaging in normal activities, and many others. Reaction to divorce does not look the same for all children. It is important for parents to remember that children most often times blame themselves for their parents divorce. It’s important to check in with your child and understand what the divorce is like from their eyes. How is your child feeling? Do you know?  Are they exhibiting any of these signs? 

Counseling can help your child or teen cope with the difficult process of divorce. It is possible for them to work through the pain with the support. Don’t wait to get support for your child and family.

Posted 194 weeks ago